After a while the curvy phenomenon emerged (I talked about it here) I started noticing the reverse flow: people now were insulting/degrading thinness. It was absurd, I thought.
It was the same shaming process, just with a different target.
Even a popular song that was in every radio (I know you know it) was transmitting the same message:
I’m bringing booty back
Go ahead and tell them skinny bitches that
There was another expression I continued to read: real women. Curvy women were real women.
What did it mean? Were thin women false, abstract, immaginary, unreal?
I cannot believe I have to write something so obvious, but:
Every woman is a real woman because every woman is real.
The concept of “reality” does not stand on the kilos signed on your scale.
Again, the good intent of valuing curvy bodies – is it okay to call them like that? – had gone too far away from the original aim, becoming another black or white, curvy vs thin battle where one opponent had to go down.
As a curvy young woman who hated her body until she was 20 and was bullied because “fat”, “whale”, from kindergarten to high school, I felt good because I could see more women like me on ads, magazines, but I felt also terribly because, somewhere, someone else was insulted.
And that is never fair.
The wave of comments and blog posts “curvy vs thin: which is better” disappeared from the spotlights some months ago, but it is a universal tide that will continue to come back.
I’m going to leave you with a video that deeply moves me every time I watch it, by the glorious Mary Lambert,
and with a hint: you can find My Mad Fat Diary also on Youtube ;)
First season 6 episodes, Second season 7 episodes, Third season coming out this summer.
I know I’ve recommended you MMFD other times, but you really have to watch it. It is my legacy.